In contrast to some posts I posted previously today, I don’t think people should feel the need to label themselves as anything, and other people shouldn’t have the right to tell you that you’re being annoying or “a special snowflake” for not wanting to label yourself.
I personally am really comfortable with not wanting to have a label, because I don’t feel like there are any expectations that I have to meet. This might not be the case for others, but it doesn’t make me feel pressured at all, like it did when I identified as hetero or pan, and I don’t feel like I fit into any of the pan-, queer or pomo- labels. I know some of you might go “whut omg she’s being so annoying what a typical bi now gay later” but honestly, you have no right to judge me or anyone else for the way we perceive ourselves and our sexuality. No one has the right to do that to anyone, no matter where they are on the sexuality spectra. Sexuality is such an introverted experience that it’s virtually impossible to explain it fully to someone in just pure words, I think. Love is so much feeling that explaining it is almost impossible, at least for me. So that’s why I feel comfortable not labeling myself too much (key word: too much). I do swing more towards heterosexuality, definitely, but again, love is such a different experience for everyone that that alone shouldn’t be enough for you to judge me and my perception of love.
Does that make sense…?
Life is linear, and all we can do is keep moving forward. It’s impossible to go backwards, so pondering about that past will do no good. We can learn from our mistakes, but in the end, unless we move forward and try to make the most of life, that which we’ve learnt will go to waste.
It’s actually interesting to me how people always go “British/Japanese/American things are the best” when in reality the things they’re talking about aren’t just British/Japanese/American, they were made by people, not nationalities… So whenever someone says they’re an anglophile or otaku or something similar, I always wonder why, because to me just loving humanity and celebrating culture as a whole is enough, like saying you’re an anglophile is almost taking credit away from the creators of those awesome things and just making them British/Japanese/etc. Like the creators had nothing to do with it it was just there
Like do any of you (anglophiles) even know why Brits drink so much tea, or where that “Keep Calm” poster comes from, or what the political situation in Scotland is, or who actually created Doctor Who, or any famous British people who aren’t actors? To me it’s just so odd to say that you love (for example) British things, because it’s just all the same, isn’t it? Awesome people created awesome things and they happened to be British/etc — they were actually people, humans, like you and me — but that doesn’t mean the thing itself is exclusively British….
I don’t know, am I making myself clear? Like this is why I hate the term anglophile because it’s like weeaboo but more socially accepted
Like you can be proud over James Bond or anime or the moon landing if you want to, you don’t have to be from there to do so. I’d rather be proud as a human than as a nationalist. “British at heart” is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard of. You’re a human being and that’s enough, you are allowed to be proud of human endeavours.
I’ve been thinking about sexualities lately, and I know I might get a lot of hate for this, but hear me out. I’m really sorry if I offend anyone in writing this, this is just what I think as of now.
It’s okay to be attracted to people every once in a while — whether they’re the same sex as you or not, it’s okay. Almost everyone (90% of the population, at the very least) is like that. Most people get aroused when they hear a woman speaking seductively in a low, deep voice with some purr in it; I know I do. It’s something we associate with sex and seduction, which in turn is one of the reasons for why we feel aroused by it. Likewise, a lot of people feel the same when it’s a man speaking seductively. People who fall in the gay/bi/pan/pomo etc. part of the queer spectrum might feel this way more often than your typical straight person. However, this doesn’t mean that a straight person can’t be aroused by someone of the same sex. This doesn’t mean that they’re bi, either. It doesn’t mean anything — it just means that they appreciate the sexual feeling being conveyed by the seductive man/woman. To quote my confirmation priest from 2008, “Something might feel a bit bigger in your pants…”.
What I’m trying to say is that a lot of people on Tumblr feel a need to identify as transexual demiromantics with asexual qualities, or pansexuals with biromantic feelings and homosexual transitions, or homosexuals with heteroromantic feelings with asexuality as their default. To me, this makes little sense, because everyone is like that. Literally everyone is a bit demiromantic, for example. Most people are a bit bi or gay or pomo or pan, too. Why? Because sexuality is fluent, and we aren’t exclusively attracted to one thing and one thing alone, whether we want to accept that or not. This is why people have kinks and fetishes — we feel sexually aroused by these things because sexuality is fluent. It changes. Likewise, you could even say that having sex with a lady could be a “kink”, just as you feel more aroused by having sex if a gun is involved. I don’t know if I’m making myself clear, so I’ll try to use an example.
If I were to fully convey to you what my sexuality is and how it works in Tumblr terms, this would have to be my answer: I am a demiromantic heterosexual with gray asexual and heteroromantic qualities with a spice of bisexuality. However, that just sounds way too pretentious and odd, so my short answer is: I’m straight, and I’m seldom but occasionally aroused by women.
You don’t need to make it more complicated than that.
You’re gay? Great. You’re straight? Great. You’re pan? Great. You’re trans? Great.
It doesn’t have to be a long string of terms. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be that way for everyone. I know Tumblr likes to pressure people into thinking about privilege and oppression, but you don’t have to write out all of those terms in your description if you feel like saying “I’m asexual with demiromantic qualities” covers it pretty much. You can’t fully explain your sexuality by using all of those complicated words. Don’t be hard on yourself. Being demisexual is okay. Being an asexual heteroromantic is okay, too, but you don’t need to add in how you’re also an asexual potential pansexual with demiromantic qualities. That’s just too long and frankly, it’s hard to take you seriously. Some people need to use that many terms, but not everyone.
Sex is sex. Love is love. Your sexuality doesn’t define you in any way. It’s part of who you are, but it’s not who you are. The Doctor doesn’t answer “Doctor Who?” with “PANSEXUAL AROMANTIC!” does he? No, he’s “The Doctor”. So don’t let your sexuality become you. Let it be part of you, and let it be something you’re proud of and cherish, but you don’t need to tangle yourself up in all of these terms. Don’t do that to yourself.
It’s okay to describe your sexuality without the twenty terms. Just one, two or three is fine. You don’t really need more than that. If you feel like no terms will cover it properly, write it out in a few sentences. But don’t let the Tumblr beast eat you up and turn you into another person who can’t seem to differ between who they are and what their sexuality is.
Hello. As of late, a lot of people seem to have been reading up on Norse mythology in order to understand more of Loki and Thor’s universe. That’s awesome, and as a Swede, I’m delighted that so many are taking an interest in our indigenous mythology. However, a lot of people have also been taking parts of the mythology and twisted them into lies and spread it as truth, especially to somehow make their arguments for why Loki is not a bad guy more “valid”. Indeed, Loki is not a “bad guy” in the comics, but he is very much so in the mythology. Therefore, here are some things I’d like to clear up:
While I was researching what kind of haircut to get yesterday, I got a taste of how subjective people can be. People honestly believe that short hair on a woman means that she’s gay.
I don’t know what to say to that. You seriously think women sport short hair just because they’re gay? There can be no other explanation as to why a woman would like to cut her hair short? Really? Do you suppose all men with shoulder-length hair are gay, too? No? Why not?
Maybe you should pack your bags with 1920’s ideals and get out of here before common sense gets to you. It’s all over for you, man. Run. Run far, far away.
(Maybe) an unpoular opinion: Am I the only one who’s getting increasingly annoyed by all the “WE NEED SEASON 3 NOW!” and “THE SHERLOCK FANDOM IS BROKEN” stuff? I mean, I don’t get why you need to make such a big fuzz about it. Yes, you have to wait, woe is you. You will get three episodes, each 95min long, which are basically three short movies. Actually, I’m surprised we’re even getting them so soon. I mean it is quite amazing how they can produce three short movies with that detail and quality in under almost two years. That’s why I’m not complaining a bit about it; I enjoy waiting. That way, I know the end result is going to be amazing. Of course you can complain and stuff, I mean it’s Tumblr, but… Do you really need to take over every single Sherlock related post (and sometimes other posts just because) and complain about it there? It takes the fun out of reblogging it, and I don’t really want to have to delete all of the “WE NEED SEASON 3/WE ARE BROKEN/THE WORLD’S ONLY CONSULTING FANDOM!1!!” stuff every single time I feel like reblogging a quality .gif or graphic.
Please, ladies and gents; contain your feels.
I’ve come to the conclusion that I am not a feminist. I believe in equality between the genders, but I can’t do that just by believing the rights of just one of them (IE. women). I think it’s ridiculous how both women and men are treated by most justice systems. I don’t believe in a world where you get 40% less prison time “just because you’re a woman”, or a world where you get up to 30% more prison time “because you’re a man”.
I believe that we should be treated equally by society, and not “become” our gender. I’m Anna, I’m not woman, and my friend is Alex, not man. Treat us as such.
In this modern day and age, I’d just like to say that I will not judge you based on how many sexual partners you’ve had. I won’t call you names for liking sex, or for disliking it. We’re all unique individuals, and there’s no point in calling anyone a “whore” or “loser” for wanting or not wanting sex.